Demonstrated Interest: Shared Trademarks of a Carefully Composed Valentine
Love is in the air—whether it’s for a certain someone or your dream college. Demonstrated interest in college admissions and Valentine’s Day gestures have more in common than you might think. In both cases, students are trying to show someone (or a specific college) that they are genuinely interested. But just like in dating, not every college (or crush) values the same signals.

Who Cares About Interest?
Some colleges—like your high-maintenance Valentine—really want to be wooed. Schools with competitive but unpredictable admissions, like American University or Tulane, track Demonstrated Interest closely. They want to know if you’ve visited campus, attended webinars, or engaged in conversations with admissions reps. If you ghost them, they might ghost you right back (by waitlisting or rejecting you).
Other schools? They couldn’t care less. The Ivy League, for example, plays hard to get. No amount of love letters, emails, website visits, or phone calls will improve your chances—they want you to apply because you genuinely belong, not because you sent them a dozen virtual roses.
Big Gestures vs. Thoughtful Actions
Just like in relationships, showing interest can take many forms:
Big Gestures, like Visiting Campus: Flying across the country for an in-person tour is like planning a fancy Valentine’s dinner. It’s impressive but not always necessary.
Thoughtful Notes, like Attending a Virtual Event: A well-timed webinar or college fair interaction is like a heartfelt card—it shows you’re paying attention without overdoing it.
Regular Check-ins, like Emailing Your Regional Rep: If done right, it’s charming. If done too much, it’s clingy. A few genuine questions? Great. Daily emails? Red flag.
Going All In & Applying Early Decision: This is like a Valentine’s Day proposal. You’re committing 100%, and colleges love the exclusivity.
Mixed Signals: When Interest Backfires
Have you ever sent a message and been left on read? Some colleges track Demonstrated Interest, but others ignore it completely. If you focus too much on proving your interest to a school that doesn’t care, you might be wasting your time—just like buying chocolates for someone who’s allergic.
On the flip side, if a college does care about Demonstrated Interest and you don’t put in the effort, they might assume you’re not serious. Just like in dating, reciprocity matters.
The Bottom Line
In both love and college admissions, authenticity wins. If you’re interested in a school or a certain someone, show it—but in a way that communicates genuine excitement. And if they don’t value your effort? Maybe they weren’t the right fit anyway.
Ultimately, the most fulfilling relationships are reciprocal, where the effort you put in is reflected in what you get out.
Be devoted to how you spend your time, and ensure your effort reflects your interest. Show your enthusiasm for what you truly want, and you'll be one step closer to being #CollegeBoundCareerReady.
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Sarah K. Cook
February 14, 2025
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